“How have you incorporated personalized stress management techniques for different family members? What’s one technique that proved surprisingly effective?”
Listening
In both my professional and personal life, I’ve learned that stress management is never one-size-fits-all. Within my own family, I’ve made a conscious effort to support each person’s emotional regulation in a way that aligns with their temperament, needs, and communication style.
For example, one technique that proved surprisingly effective for my child was a “feelings station.” It’s a small area with emotion cards, calming tools like sensory putty, and a whiteboard to write or draw what they’re experiencing. Instead of being told to “calm down,” they’re empowered to check in with themselves. Over time, this space became a place of comfort rather than correction, and it helped them build emotional awareness and language.
For my partner, on the other hand, stress relief looks more physical. Taking walks, stepping away from screens, or even doing something hands-on like cooking works far better than verbal processing. Respecting that difference has reduced tension in how we support one another.
Personally, I rely on grounding practices like breathwork and quiet journaling, but more importantly, I model that self-regulation openly. I want my family to see that stress is part of life, and we all benefit from tools that help us process it constructively.
The key is listening. When we truly listen to what each person responds to (rather than assuming what should work) we create a more connected and emotionally resilient household. Tailoring stress management doesn’t just help with the moment at hand. It builds lifelong coping skills for everyone involved.
Manpreet Lehal, NCC LCMHCS, CEO & Founder, Wake Counseling
“Scheduled worry time.”
It’s a common mistake to treat family stress like a single fire needing one big bucket of water. In reality, every family member is experiencing their own blaze, and each requires a different approach. What calms an introverted parent—like quiet time—might feel like a punishment to an extroverted child who thrives on connection. The key is to stop looking for a one-size-fits-all solution and instead create a personalized “emotional first-aid kit” for each person.
A surprisingly effective technique I use in my practice is the “scheduled worry time.” We set a timer for 15 minutes where everyone can voice, write, or draw their biggest worries without judgment. When the timer goes off, all those worries go into a physical box, and the family agrees not to open it again until the next day. This simple, concrete action puts a tangible boundary around anxiety.
This ritual does something powerful—it contains the stress. It teaches children and adults that they are in control of their worries, not the other way around. It is a structured way to acknowledge difficult feelings without letting them run the household, giving each family member a sense of agency over their own emotional well-being.
Ishdeep Narang, MD, Child, Adolescent & Adult Psychiatrist | Founder, ACES Psychiatry, Orlando, Florida
Listening first
As someone who works closely with families in crisis — and lives it too — I’ve learned one thing: you can’t force one-size-fits-all solutions. Everyone’s stress shows up differently, and if you treat it the same across the board, you’re going to lose them.
In my own family and in the families we help at Ridgeline, what works best is letting people take the lead on what helps them decompress — not what you think should help them.
For example, my teenage daughter shuts down when she’s overwhelmed. No amount of “talk it out” will help. What worked? Giving her a physical outlet. She found boxing. I didn’t get it at first — but I shut up and supported it. Now she’s consistent, stronger, more open. That physical release gave her power back.
On the flip side, my wife is the opposite. She processes everything through talking. What calmed her stress? A 30-minute non-negotiable walk with me every evening, no phones. Not therapy. Not yoga. Just a quiet space to be heard without fixing anything. That small window made a massive impact.
In the center, we apply the same principle with families — we don’t hand them a stress management worksheet and call it a day. We sit down, learn their rhythms, their culture, their wounds. Some people need breathing techniques. Others need community. One dad just needed someone to tell him it was okay to cry in front of his son.
Bottom line: the most effective technique is listening first. Everything else flows from there.
Andy Danec, Owner, Ridgeline Recovery LLC
Creating a family “downtime” ritual
I’ve learned that stress management needs to be tailored to each person, especially within my family. For my partner, regular outdoor activities like hiking or cycling work wonders as a way to clear the mind and connect. My teenage daughter prefers journaling, which helps her process her thoughts and emotions privately.
Surprisingly, the most effective technique has been simple—creating a family “downtime” ritual. We set aside one evening a week with no work or screens, where we focus on cooking together, playing board games, or just chatting. It’s become a grounding routine that not only reduces stress but also strengthens our bond. This small act of intentional family time turned out to be a powerful way to keep stress at bay, especially during busy periods. The simplicity of it has had a bigger impact than I expected.
Nikita Sherbina, Co-Founder & CEO, AIScreen